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It starts with the dream

What to do when things go wrong

Gratitude & Growth

Sometimes life throws you a curve ball. Things happen, stuff goes wrong. When it does, it’s so easy to fall into a despair, feelings of hopelessness or hurt that have you feeling anxious, angry or resentful.

The situation may be work or personal, a redundancy,  perhaps a broken friendship or marriage. What ever that’s happened it feels hard and painful to cope with. Perhaps you’re harbouring resentment or even hatred towards a person or persons.

Whether you believe in God, karma or science we all know that holding onto hurts, unforgiveness and hatred ultimately hurts us the most. It will eat at you, and the stress of it can negatively impact your health.

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You can't control your situation, only your reaction

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When you can’t change the outcome, you can’t control what has happened and how then there’s just one thing left to do.

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR ACTIONS & THOUGHTS

Here are 3 journal prompts that can help you reframe your situation in a better way. Take soem time out to do some thinking and writing and find the silverlinings in your current storm cloud. 

It’s not easy. It’s a choice. Some days you’ll feel good about it and other days will be a struggle. When you you have those tough days, you’ll have this journal printable to read over.

So here’s the 3 things that you can do to help take charge of your reaction.

1. Think about all the good things that came out of that situation. Did you learn something new? Did you meet some amazing people? That relationship that didn’t work out, did you learn something of yourself? Did that person help you in someway or cause you to grow? Did you choose a better way because of it? Did you realise that something in your life wasn’t beneficial to you causing you to develop new better habits? 

There’s always something to be grateful for, growth that we experienced. Write these all down. Keep coming back to them when you feel hurt, frustrated or resentful. Remind yourself of the good that had come out of it.

What’s the best thing that happened? How did it help you find a better way, be a better person? Write that down on the bottom of the sheet.

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On the second sheet, you’re going to think of all the amazing things that could happen. What new opportunities are now open to you? What things are you now able to say yes to? How can you make things better? How can you change direction for the better? What exciting things can you start doing or learning? What did this situation put a spotlight on that you know needs to be worked on? Get excited about all your future opportunities and write them down.

This situation may have caused you to feel guilt, shame or feelings of unworthiness. It’s time to let go of that. What positive quote, words, or religious verses give you hope and encouragement? Write this down and read it when ever you feel bad.

These excersies don’t need to take a long time, if you want to spend more time on it you can. Perhaps you want to do 2/3 sheets? What ever has happened, look forward, let go of the hurt and move onto bigger and better things. Life is waiting, so go live it!

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Have you found yourself waiting even though you believe God gave you a message to share?
 
Maybe he's even given you the plan but you still haven't launched?
 
Perhaps if you're like me in the past you've been watching webinars and downloading freebies but you're still not taking action.
 
It's quite common and I see it with women I've worked with.
 
So many women stay stuck in preparation mode because they believe they need more confidence, more clarity, more qualifications, or more time before they begin.
 
But that's not true. I believe you already have a seed to plant right now that can grow into something amazing.
 
It's already in you, because it's your life story.
 
In this week’s post, I’m sharing why the answer isn’t another course or another strategy, but learning to turn your Milestones, Mastery, and Message into your Mission.
 
If you’re tired of preparing and ready to finally take the next step, this one is for you.
 
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Have you found yourself waiting even though you believe God gave you a message to share? Maybe he's even given you the plan but you still haven't launched? Perhaps if you're like me in the past you've been watching webinars and downloading freebies but you're still not taking action. It's quite common and I see it with women I've worked with. So many women stay stuck in preparation mode because they believe they need more confidence, more clarity, more qualifications, or more time before they begin. But that's not true. I believe you already have a seed to plant right now that can grow into something amazing. It's already in you, because it's your life story. In this week’s post, I’m sharing why the answer isn’t another course or another strategy, but learning to turn your Milestones, Mastery, and Message into your Mission. If you’re tired of preparing and ready to finally take the next step, this one is for you. Read the full post over on my Substack. Link 🔗 bit.ly/iswtdplan 🔗 . . #CreateYourPath #WalkingInPurpose #HeartLedDreams #CalledForMore #DestinySteps #FaithOverFear #KingdomLiving #KingdomPurpose #LivingOnPurpose
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Because nobody becomes fluent by staying silent.

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What does learning a new language have to do with starting a business? More than you might think. Today I'm sharing a personal story about moving from Zambia to the UK as a child, losing my mother tongue, and what my colleagues taught me about courage, resilience, and being willing to sound like a beginner. Because nobody becomes fluent by staying silent. And the same is true when you're building a business, sharing your story, or stepping into a new season of life. Read the full post on Substack. 🔗 bit.ly/newspeak1 🔗
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I'm curious 🤔 have you've overcome a difficult season in your life...

AND you've never shared what you learned because you're not sure anyone would pay for your experience.

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I'm curious 🤔 have you've overcome a difficult season in your life... AND you've never shared what you learned because you're not sure anyone would pay for your experience. You've done the healing. You've gained the wisdom. You've come through the other side. But your story is still sitting on the shelf instead of helping someone else. Who can relate?
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When things go wrong, it's so easy to wonder what you did to deserve it, or if God's somehow disappointed in you. But there's not always a reason, life happens. 

But I believe God will take what was meant for evil and then it for good.

He'll use it to heal you and make you more like him.

He'll use the same thing that broke you to help someone else come back to life. 

Your story matters.

I'm opening up 3 spaces for 1:1 coaching in July to help women uncover the treasure in their story and start using it to create a service or product to impact others.

Dm to find out more or book a quick call bit.ly/DCCalled

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When things go wrong, it's so easy to wonder what you did to deserve it, or if God's somehow disappointed in you. But there's not always a reason, life happens. But I believe God will take what was meant for evil and then it for good. He'll use it to heal you and make you more like him. He'll use the same thing that broke you to help someone else come back to life. Your story matters. I'm opening up 3 spaces for 1:1 coaching in July to help women uncover the treasure in their story and start using it to create a service or product to impact others. Dm to find out more or book a quick call bit.ly/DCCalled . . . #purpose #innerhealing #useyourstory #shareyourgifts
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Somewhere along the way I had equated being a Christian with everything going well and life growing in all the outward ways (status, money, influence).

And for some time that was my life!

✅I studied the degree I wanted at the University of my choice. 
✅I got a job in fashion (both competitive and hard to get into). 
✅Kept increasing my income.
✅I got married, bought a home and had kids.

But then…everything unraveled 😵‍💫

I experienced postnatal depression. Financial pressure mounted. We burned through savings trying to make ends meet. I developed arthritis and struggled with everyday tasks that should have felt simple.

And honestly, I was DEVASTATED and questioned God’s love for me.
But here’s the thing - while it was a time of intense pain and hardship, from that pain, my business “It Starts with a Dream” was born. I shared my journey, created planners, journals then courses and then coaching.

The truth is: God uses the hard things.

Every disappointment taught me something.
Every struggle revealed something in me that needed healing.
Every season of loss developed compassion, wisdom, resilience, and dependence on Him.

Nothing was wasted.

And that's what I now see in the women I work with too.

So many of them believe they're disqualified because their journey has been messy.

Because they're still healing.
Because they don't have the perfect testimony or the perfect plan.
But often the very things they're tempted to hide are the things God wants to use.

The marriage lessons 🔥
The parenting lessons 🔥
The career lessons 🔥
The wilderness seasons 🔥

You see, the calling isn't separate from your story.
It's built from it.

If you've been sensing that God wants to use your experiences to help other women through coaching, courses, or digital products, but you don't know how to turn your story into something tangible, that's exactly what I help women do.

I’m actually opening up (3) 1:1 spots, beginning July 1, to help you do this at a price point that won’t break the bank. If you’d like to learn more and discern whether this can work for you, send me a DM or book a call bit.ly/DCCalled
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Somewhere along the way I had equated being a Christian with everything going well and life growing in all the outward ways (status, money, influence). And for some time that was my life! ✅I studied the degree I wanted at the University of my choice. ✅I got a job in fashion (both competitive and hard to get into). ✅Kept increasing my income. ✅I got married, bought a home and had kids. But then…everything unraveled 😵‍💫 I experienced postnatal depression. Financial pressure mounted. We burned through savings trying to make ends meet. I developed arthritis and struggled with everyday tasks that should have felt simple. And honestly, I was DEVASTATED and questioned God’s love for me. But here’s the thing - while it was a time of intense pain and hardship, from that pain, my business “It Starts with a Dream” was born. I shared my journey, created planners, journals then courses and then coaching. The truth is: God uses the hard things. Every disappointment taught me something. Every struggle revealed something in me that needed healing. Every season of loss developed compassion, wisdom, resilience, and dependence on Him. Nothing was wasted. And that's what I now see in the women I work with too. So many of them believe they're disqualified because their journey has been messy. Because they're still healing. Because they don't have the perfect testimony or the perfect plan. But often the very things they're tempted to hide are the things God wants to use. The marriage lessons 🔥 The parenting lessons 🔥 The career lessons 🔥 The wilderness seasons 🔥 You see, the calling isn't separate from your story. It's built from it. If you've been sensing that God wants to use your experiences to help other women through coaching, courses, or digital products, but you don't know how to turn your story into something tangible, that's exactly what I help women do. I’m actually opening up (3) 1:1 spots, beginning July 1, to help you do this at a price point that won’t break the bank. If you’d like to learn more and discern whether this can work for you, send me a DM or book a call bit.ly/DCCalled
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I'm closing down part of my offers to make space for the new. It's been hard to do so, because I'm so proud of what I'd created and how they've helped people. But I've not been feeling passionate about them and not looking to update them at present because I'm really been focused on designing my life and inner healing.

So I want to make space for what comes out of that. For the rest of the month you can get these amazing offers.

1. I'm running a 70% off sale on Etsy until the end of the month then the shop will go into holiday mode and possibly deleted.
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2. I'm retiring my original course Planners on demand (create planners with print on demand) and it is available to buy at 65% off iitstartswiththedream.com/plannersondemand OR type *demand* to get the link to your DMs

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2 big things right now...

I'm closing down part of my offers to make space for the new. It's been hard to do so, because I'm so proud of what I'd created and how they've helped people. But I've not been feeling passionate about them and not looking to update them at present because I'm really been focused on designing my life and inner healing.

So I want to make space for what comes out of that. For the rest of the month you can get these amazing offers.

1. I'm running a 70% off sale on Etsy until the end of the month then the shop will go into holiday mode and possibly deleted.
https://www.etsy.com/shop/itstartswiththedream

2. I'm retiring my original course Planners on demand (create planners with print on demand) and it is available to buy at 65% off iitstartswiththedream.com/plannersondemand OR type *demand* to get the link to your DMs

You'll be getting amazing value and all the other bonuses like planner canva templates, sales page templates and more!

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2 big things right now...

I'm closing down part of my offers to make space for the new. It's been hard to do so, because I'm so proud of what I'd created and how they've helped people. But I've not been feeling passionate about them and not looking to update them at present because I'm really been focused on designing my life and inner healing.

So I want to make space for what comes out of that. For the rest of the month you can get these amazing offers.

1. I'm running a 70% off sale on Etsy until the end of the month then the shop will go into holiday mode and possibly deleted.
https://www.etsy.com/shop/itstartswiththedream

2. I'm retiring my original course Planners on demand (create planners with print on demand) and it is available to buy at 65% off iitstartswiththedream.com/plannersondemand OR type *demand* to get the link to your DMs

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2 big things right now... I'm closing down part of my offers to make space for the new. It's been hard to do so, because I'm so proud of what I'd created and how they've helped people. But I've not been feeling passionate about them and not looking to update them at present because I'm really been focused on designing my life and inner healing. So I want to make space for what comes out of that. For the rest of the month you can get these amazing offers. 1. I'm running a 70% off sale on Etsy until the end of the month then the shop will go into holiday mode and possibly deleted. https://www.etsy.com/shop/itstartswiththedream 2. I'm retiring my original course Planners on demand (create planners with print on demand) and it is available to buy at 65% off iitstartswiththedream.com/plannersondemand OR type *demand* to get the link to your DMs You'll be getting amazing value and all the other bonuses like planner canva templates, sales page templates and more! #PrintableStationery #etsyprintables #lifeplanner #printables #lifeplanneraddict #lifeplanners #lifeplannerd
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The part of your story you keep editing out?

That’s probably the exact part someone else needs to hear.

Not the polished version.

The burnout.
The cancelled launch.
The year you lost yourself a little.
The rebuilding.

We try so hard to skip to the redeemed ending that we forget people connect through the messy middle.
Your reader doesn’t need another perfect woman online. She needs proof that someone survived the chapter she’s currently living.

Polished people are easy to admire.

Authentic people are the ones who make people stay.

Maybe the part you’re trying to hide is actually the very thing God wants to use. 🌿

I wrote a blog/Substack post about sharing the scar, not the wound, and why your story matters more than you think.

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The part of your story you keep editing out? That’s probably the exact part someone else needs to hear. Not the polished version. The burnout. The cancelled launch. The year you lost yourself a little. The rebuilding. We try so hard to skip to the redeemed ending that we forget people connect through the messy middle. Your reader doesn’t need another perfect woman online. She needs proof that someone survived the chapter she’s currently living. Polished people are easy to admire. Authentic people are the ones who make people stay. Maybe the part you’re trying to hide is actually the very thing God wants to use. 🌿 I wrote a blog/Substack post about sharing the scar, not the wound, and why your story matters more than you think. bit.ly/burnout26 #burnout #AuthenticBranding #ChristianCreative #PurposeDrivenLife #WomenWhoCreate #FaithAndBusiness #PersonalGrowthJourney #CreativeEntrepreneur #CalledToCreate #WomenInBusiness
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