Do you remember it? Maybe it was a moment or perhaps an event when you felt like you were being called out of your everyday life as you knew it and into a something so much more.
That dream firstly a whisper that became a shout and you couldn’t ignore it any more. You didn’t want to ignore it, all the reasons why not, the fears, the excuses crumbled and you knew you had to step out and try. You owed it yourself, you couldn’t live a life of “what if?” any longer.
My catalyst to creating a new life was a quarter life crisis
I was experiencing postnatal depression, worried about losing my job on maternity leave, facing a growing mountain of debt due to the high costs of childcare and raising a family in London.
I was feeling stuck because I wanted more time with my young sons. I didn’t feel I could do anything different than what I was doing and I was too scared to step out of the competitive fashion industry in case I could never get back in.
I was frozen with fear to try new things or put myself out there to start a blog, business or change careers.
I was held captive by anxiety which kept me stuck, confused and full of self doubt, scared to step out of my comfort zone. I was in a constant state of over thinking and racing thoughts – worrying what other people would think of me.
Would it work?
What If I failed?
What if we ended up homeless? What if I was a bad mother? What if I never felt better?
Somehow I knew there was something better...
My Christian faith told me and that thought became a
small spark of hope
I also realised…
I had to create a new dream for my life, a vision that aligned with my new values (my young family), highest priorities, a life where I shared my God given gifts, my skills and my story to create positive impact for myself and others.
It starts with a dream!
Bit by bit…
My life began to change.
Today it looks so different and it’s so much more than I could have hoped, dreamt or imagined.
A few years in I looked back at my life and couldn’t believe how far I’d come inspite of the anxious thoughts, inspite of still experiencing fear and self doubt and inspite of having health issues and a busy life.
This includes you
I wanted EVERY woman to know she is capable of so much more than she thinks, to know she is worthy and has value, to believe her dreams are worth fighting for, to make self care a lifestyle, for her to nourish herself mind, body, spirit and soul as she pursues her hearts desires.
So I started this business where I share the tools, exercises and experiences that helped me create a vision for my life, grow my mindset, step out of my comfort zone and move forward in the face of fear, self doubt or judgment.
I use my 15 years + fashion and product development experience, branding, and graphics skills coupled with my personal life experiences with anxiety and PND to bring you tools and resources that will help you build a purposeful and intentional life of your dreams.
I use printables, planners and templates as my medium to help you create a dream for your life, gain clarity, plan and execute.
I also teach others how to turn their printables into physical planners!
I’ve had the pleasure of serving over 8000 people with my free resources on goal setting, self care, mindset and habits. I hope you’ll be next!
some ways my life has changed
Got my dream job at a 200+ year old Retail brand (then realised it wasn’t anymore)
Got a part time job that fit my life
Started a blog & scary things like Youtube lol
Learnt new skills which became my freelance business
Created physical products that have sold globally
Get to express myself in so many more ways
Stopped living in dark clothes and embraced colour and pattern, hello crazy rainbow tropical vibes!
Stronger marriage
Been the main caregiver for my sons
Manage anxiety and not let it stop me
Feel more at peace with my body though being bigger
Manage my inner critic and feel more positive
Have a beautiful and inspiring colourful crazy home
More confident pushing back against authority to advocate for myself
Take time for myself, self care, fun and creativity
Slowed down my racing thoughts
Set my own schedule
Share my story and make an impact for others
Got out of my comfort zone to lead small groups
Taking more of a leadership role in my life in different spheres
Grown in my faith and exploring traditions that seemed weird to the old me
Travelled to Zambia and Colombia with our kids
Felt safer to be seen and worthy of taking up space in life
A little more about me
I’m a mixed race woman with Zambian and Welsh heritage. I love my cultures and been blessed to have lived in both countries.
As a child I did often feel like an outsider, and I tried to hide away. I was part of 2 worlds and now at the same time.
I wore my hair pulled back into a tiny bun then later chemically straightened. I used a nickname instead of my ‘unusual’ name.
As I came into my late teens and early 20’s I started to embrace and then love my name and natural hair. I teach my sons to be proud of themselves too.
I was always creative, drawing and making as far back as I can remember. Thankfully my parents supported my artistic endeavours and from about 13 I knew I wanted to be a fashion designer. I worked with single focus towards that and had over 15 years in the industry.
I feel like a weird nerd inside and still an outsider in life.
I’m fascinated by ancient history and wonder if the version we are taught is really as it all happened. After all they say history is written by the victors.
I never seem to watch a hit series when it’s live and seem to watch them years down the line. But the great part is you can binge watch them all!
Growing up I was the ‘good girl’ and followed the set path. While it was a little different being in fashion, it was still the traditional route of Uni, job, climb the ladder.
I’ve changed over this journey of self discovery and see my world quite differently. I don’t think the systems of this world are made for all to thrive. I have concerns about the models we have grown up in, school can create kids who don’t think outside of the box and get used to doing what they’re told so they can be perfect employees and model citizens who won’t necessarily stand up for what they believe in or challenge what they see that doesn’t seem right or just.
I try teach my kids to be in the system but not of the system. To question what they’re told, to try see things from other perspectives and to be confident in being themselves and walking their own path.
I can be a walking contradiction, I don’t like cussin but still get down to some old skool hiphop from time to time.
I’m introverted but get a lot out of hanging out with others.
I’ve declutter a lot and try to be more minimal but love a maximalist home interior style!
This is the fun of life, mixing, matching, clashing and being ALL the different things you’re made of.
Which dream would you like to work on?
Create an inspiring vision for your life built on your values, priorities, gifts and purpose.
Do you have a message to share or creative gifts? Start a planner or online business and create income while you have fun.